April 11, 2018. The day my life changed forever, at least it was for the better. My son Sawyer was welcomed into this world and I knew I was in for it.
With Sawyer being my first child (and my only for the unforeseeable future), I didn’t know what to expect. I never read any expecting books, I had decided while pregnant to just wing it. When Sawyer was born, I was flooded from advice from my mom, my boyfriend’s mom and many more. It was overwhelming.
Number one thing I learned, that in hindsight, I learned a little too late, is to not care about what other people think! I struggled with this so much in so many different ways. For example, I never breastfed in public. Anytime I went out, I always made sure I had bottles ready with pumped milk. I would go out all day with family members, feeling so uncomfortable and in so much pain from being full of milk but I was so scared of other people’s opinions more that I dealt with it. This is one of my biggest regrets so don’t worry about what others think, do whatever you feel is best for your baby no matter what!
Second thing I learned is to sleep when the baby sleeps. Now I’ll be honest, I got lucky with Sawyer. He was an amazing sleeper, of course it was a little rough in the beginning but we adjusted very quickly. I took naps whenever he did to help try and catch up on what I was losing at night. I cannot tell you how much this helped me, Sawyer’s a year old now and I still nap when he does.
Number three is to take time to be with your partner. Now that there’s another human being, time between you and your loved one will undoubtedly shrink. My boyfriend and I try and take time at night to talk to each other and enjoy each other’s company without the baby. It’s these times I look forward to the most during the day.
Last but not least, is to take time for yourself. It’s okay to let your significant other take over and let you have some me time. I struggled with this because I thought since I was Mom, I had to put everyone else’s needs first before mine. But you can’t take care of everyone else if you aren’t taken care of. Take the time to take a relaxing bath or go out somewhere childfree. You are still a human being that has needs and wants.
I hope you enjoyed reading what I’ve learned as a mother. If you’re a mother, what did you learn in your first year as one? Was there anything different that I might not have mentioned? Let me know in the comments below!